Sunday, July 20, 2014

Adventures in Weaning .... Episode 1!

Today my baby boy is 20 months old!

Mr. Handsome at church this morning

We have been talking about weaning him off and on-- just things like when and how...  I'm super happy that we have made it to 20 months of breastfeeding, it's been an amazing journey so far and though I'm not ready to give it up completely (and neither is he), we are ready to start the process. 

I had somewhat hoped that he would start to self-wean a little past a year and he would be done by now.  He isn't slowing down much lately though and actually since school has been out for the summer and I have been with him all the time now he has picked it up a little more.  Pretty sure he would be nursing well beyond 2 if I let him.  But this mama is about ready to be done.  I'm happy we have made it this far and we have both benefited from it immensely.  I am ready though to have my body back to myself for a bit; and we are not preventing baby number 2 right now so a break between nursing and being pregnant will be nice. 

Our typical day goes like this--- he wakes up in the morning and nurses first thing.  Then we are up for the day and he usually goes the whole morning and down for his nap without it.  (Once in a while on a day where he's fighting the nap I will go ahead and nurse him before.)  Then he usually asks to nurse as soon as he wakes up, another random time in the evening (sometimes), then before bed.  He also still nurses a couple times at night.  This isn't a huge deal because he spends half the night right in our bed.  He usually wakes up in his crib between 12 and 1, I bring him to our bed, nurse him back to sleep and then he will wake up again around 3:30-4, nurse back to sleep, then wakes up for the day around 7/7:30 and we start all over again.

Recently, my babysitting job for the summer ended prematurely (job issues for their family) sooooo that left me without a summer job (ahh!)  It worked out ok because I started back up working at the YMCA.  I will have to do one evening shift a week if I want the hours I need so Brew and I decided that it would probably be best to cut out the bedtime nursing session first.  We were going to night wean first but hopefully by cutting bedtime it'll make it more consistent for him, and not to mention it will give me/us a little more freedom.  If we want to go out on a date night and go see a movie or something I won't have to worry about him not going down for bed without nursing.  He usually does ok for daddy but I've been a little worried it might not work as well for my mom or mother in law.  Most people when they wean cut bedtime last because it tends to be the hardest so we will need lots of prayers to get through it!

Our game plan is this-- I will nurse him in the evening if he requests it but no more nursing in our bed like I was before.  I just will plan on cuddling him to sleep.  He is going to protest like he did tonight but if he doesn't calm down after 5 minutes then I will let him nurse for just a few minutes and decrease the time each night until he's not nursing at all.  I'm trying to take the gentle approach.  It'll be easier on BOTH of us even if it takes a little longer.

So tonight it worked ok.  He threw a major fit when I declined his first request so I did allow him to nurse for 5 minutes only, but I told him before "ok but you can only nurse for 5 minutes then we are all done".  I know he doesn't have any real concept of how long five minutes is but I figure he understands more than I give him credit for so it can't hurt.  Besides it prepares him for it being taken away (I know he knows what "all done" means!) and it also enforces the idea that I am the one setting the limits here.  So tomorrow should be easier because I won't be here at all (Daddy is doing the bedtime); I will be working.  We will see how things go the rest of the week.  On Tuesday he will get 4 minutes, Wednesday 3, and so on-- but I am hoping he quits asking for it altogether during that time.  I will do an update at the end of the week and let you know how it is going/how it went and then we will be starting on phase 2-- Night weaning!

Monday, July 14, 2014

Jackson's first ER trip

Well it happened.

I knew it was bound to having a little boy; but I guess I got overconfident because I have a late walker who is generally pretty cautious.

This past Friday I stepped out on the back porch to roll up the hose (we were planning on taking it to my in-laws so they could use it).  Jackson was safely quarantined to the living room and kitchen.  The kitchen cabinets have locks on them- the basement door was shut- and the living room is baby proofed and also where the majority of his toys are kept.  I wasn't worried in the slightest.

I wound the hose all up and glanced back to check on my boy who was tapping on the inside of the door looking out at me.  I carried the hose a few feet down by the car and tossed it over the fence.  Then I heard him start crying.  I figured he was just freaking out because I went out of sight.  So I came back inside and to my horror saw this:

I took this pic while trying to keep ice on it to send to my husband
My stomach sank.  I nearly panicked as I scooped him up and held him and tried to get him calmed down while frantically searching to figure out what on earth he hit his head on.  I deduced that he made contact with the corner of the wall because of the abrasion on top of that horrible goose egg.  Major mom fail and mom guilt!!!  I checked him over to make sure he wasn't showing any immediate signs of a concussion (he wasn't) and called Brew.

After he calmed down :(
We decided that even though he wasn't showing signs of a concussion we wanted to take him in to get him checked out by a doctor.  Worse case thoughts of course were going through my head- like a skull fracture or some sort of other latent concussion/brain injury.  Since it was after hours rather than take him to his doctor we headed to the emergency room.

Though still swollen a ton- it got a good deal better during our wait
We ended up having to wait in the ER for two hours.  We eventually saw the doctor though and after asking us questions and doing an exam he said a cat scan wouldn't be neccessary and that he looked ok- we just had to observe him for 6-8 hours after the incident (so for us that meant until 10:30-12:30 that night).  He could go to sleep but we had to wake him each hour and make sure he was still acting normal for him.  He was thank goodness.

I'm so glad my baby boy is fine!  I on the other hand, am pretty sure I lost at least a good two years off my life!

Back to his ornery self the next morning!

He did end up with some bruising around his eyes-- I took this video of him today.

Monday, July 7, 2014

4th of July!

We had an awesome 4th of July!  Jackson and I went to a local parade in the morning, we came back home and he napped for a few hours, then in the evening we went to two cookouts- at my sister-in-law's and then one at my brother's.  A great day full of family!